He’s Just Not That…Complicated

10 Feb

That is what I learned by watching “He’s Just Not That Into You” this weekend. According to the book/movie, it’s simple, really. Men are not complex. If they want to talk to you, they will call. If they want to see you, they will make it happen. Period. The end.

Wow. How refreshing. Wouldn’t it be fun to be a man? They don’t spend time over analyzing an event or person, obsessing over what this or that means. For the most part, they just tell it like it is. A perfect example of this just popped in my head:

My girlfriends and I were discussing my “situation” (as it’s been dubbed), and I asked them a question. It had been four days, and I had heard nothing from the other person in said situation, so I asked, “What do you think that means?” I got a lot of lengthy responses, some (ok most), that were pretty snarky in his direction. But, then, I asked a guy the same question. His answer: He doesn’t care.

Yep, three words – and no elaboration. Yowza. I quickly told him not to work for a suicide hotline anytime soon, but that I appreciated his perspective. And, really and truly…I did. It was as if a light bulb went off in my head. Maybe things aren’t always as complicated as I try to make them.

What in the world will I do with all this extra time? Purchase clothing I don’t need? Probably.

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2 Responses to “He’s Just Not That…Complicated”

  1. jcristg February 10, 2009 at 5:21 pm #

    Once you meet someone who doesn’t play the games, who calls when he wants to talk to you, makes plans when he wants to see you — essentially takes the game out of dating or relationships — you look back and think WOW what in the hell was I thinking? And how did it take me this long to see it?It’s hard to learn, or hear as it sounds like your honest friend shared, but once you realize it, it’s so damn freeing! (fingers crossed for your sanity’s sake, as well as your pocketbook.)

  2. Erica February 10, 2009 at 5:49 pm #

    Mur- it really is that simple. Why don’t we remember this? It is so easy to see when it is not you in said situation but oh so hard when your heart is involved! It really shoudln’t be work and if it is…well, I do that 5 days a week, not looking for a 2nd job- are you?Loved the movie- didn’t you.Favorite line” Girl go get you some ribs and ice-cream because you have been dumped” I think maybe some males do this too…. 🙂

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