On Forgiveness

Forgiveness – the process of ceasing to feel resentment, indignation or anger against another person for a perceived offense, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.

So, the act of forgiveness. It’s not always a piece of cake, right? It can be difficult, and at times can seem about as possible as winning the lottery. In my experience, though, letting go of resentment and anger is an absolute must. I am not myself (or my best self, I should say) with those feelings festering inside of me. It should not come as a surprise to anyone who’s breathing that there are studies that show people who forgive are healthier and happier than those who do not. (If you doubt me, just use your ole friend Mr. Google to find out.)

I am baffled by people who can’t forgive one another. Family members who don’t speak to each other, friends who abandon one another, strangers who are unkind to one another because of different backgrounds, race, religion, sexual orientation, etc. It’s all a bunch of bullshit if you ask me.

I’ve been hurt by people whom I never thought would hurt me, betrayed by people I never thought would be anything but loyal, and yet – I’ve forgiven all of them. (I certainly don’t deserve a “gold star” for it, but I’ve done it, and I’m proud of it.) Because if this were my last day on earth, I’d want no part of resentment or indignation. I’ll take happy and healthy, thank you very much.