Priority: something given or meriting attention before competing alternatives
I don’t mean for this to sound as self-absorbent as it’s going to, but: I have a lot of friends. I do. I love making friends, I love spending time with friends, I love being loyal to my friends. I also love the organizations I’m apart of, the committees I sit on, my job, my family and my dog. And sometimes, it’s really hard for me to find a proper balance.
Perhaps it’s the “people pleaser” in me, but I hate telling people no. I don’t like saying, “I can’t be there” or “I can’t help you” – it makes me feel like I’m failing the other person, and who wants to do that? But, lately, I feel like I’m spread so thin that I’m not giving enough of myself to anyone or anything I love. Why is it that when we try to please everyone, we end up pleasing no one?
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When you've figured this out, let me know please. Until then, I'll mark myself as #1 and be labeled a selfish you-know-what. 🙂 Somebody's gotta be "that person"…might as well be me.
you sounded oh-so-SJP in that last line 😉